tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post7497599729390269974..comments2024-03-25T17:48:53.875-04:00Comments on Heissatopia: AunthoodAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14785629874138416100noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-56583453495758068972012-01-04T06:18:59.455-05:002012-01-04T06:18:59.455-05:00Loved this post... So filled with deep emotion and...Loved this post... So filled with deep emotion and life! I loved the way you announced your pregnancy, Nancy! It was a lot of fun which fits perfectly with a (wanted) pregnancy!Mammodouy's Storieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08292086864997652597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-43892178212410392912011-12-31T01:18:54.861-05:002011-12-31T01:18:54.861-05:00So I just thought I would tell the story of how I ...So I just thought I would tell the story of how I announced that I was pregnant with Nancy to my parents and siblings...<br /><br />We all were at the Alberta temple together--Mom and Dad, Bruce C. and Judy, Colleen and LeRon and Bruce L. and I. Well, that makes it almost all; since Arlene and Michael were in San Diego, they were not there. This was actually the only time ever that I have been in the temple with that many of my siblings at the same time--well, maybe the same number were at Elizabeth's wedding...<br /><br />So, I goofed up and a temple worker corrected me and she wasn't very nice about it. And I started to cry. And once I started to cry, I couldn't stop. So I was crying off and on for the whole two hour session. (The sessions were two hours then. I am not making that up.) I went through all of my own kleenex, and then my Mom passed me kleenex, and Colleen and Judy passed my kleenex...my face was leaking most horribly. <br /><br />Afterwards, I was still in the dressing room, but unknown to me, Colleen went rushing up to Bruce L. and said "Is Myrna pregnant?" Your dad said, "Well, we think so." Colleen said, "Oh, I knew it! She has been crying so much, I knew she had to be pregnant. I get that way, too!"<br /><br />And then Colleen spread the news to Mom and Judy and their respective men, and when I came out, they all knew.<br /><br />I don't know who told Arlene...probably Mom.Myrnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06450610418971329885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-89936445529140581322011-12-31T00:50:05.175-05:002011-12-31T00:50:05.175-05:00Hey—you're the one who skipped out on dinner w...Hey—you're the one who skipped out on dinner with us! We were planning on telling you at dinner, not at the funeral! ;)Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08631734965938273438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-36502125053538884602011-12-31T00:47:29.954-05:002011-12-31T00:47:29.954-05:00Hey people get over it. I'm the grand parent a...Hey people get over it. I'm the grand parent and do you know when I was told. I was told at my dad's funeral. You know what try being happy and sad at the same time. It can be done. Nancy and Andrew I say congrats and more power to you. Gee, I haven't checked but I wonder if Hallmark has a card for that, they say they have a card for all occasions. Love you two and your family no matter how big it gets.Brucehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01789970427991732451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-29057813177806799752011-12-30T09:01:27.325-05:002011-12-30T09:01:27.325-05:00just want you to know, I didn't see anything w...just want you to know, I didn't see anything wrong with it! I love you xoxo don't be sad! And I'm excited for a new baby- for you on account that well, I probably won't be able to have any more EVER! I LOVE YOU!Aquaspcehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02245372987722624186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-1447202235589536872011-12-30T06:49:27.113-05:002011-12-30T06:49:27.113-05:00Ugh - I'm so sorry on all counts - it IS awkwa...Ugh - I'm so sorry on all counts - it IS awkward (and possibly the worst part of marrying into a family) I hope the awkwarditity (:D) goes away soon and everyone can just be happy for your new arrival! :DAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10650216689414959056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-75544239935826714732011-12-30T03:03:06.634-05:002011-12-30T03:03:06.634-05:00Wow Nancy, that's quite the back story. My fam...Wow Nancy, that's quite the back story. My family is somewhat similar. The baby that would have been my grandmother's first grand baby was placed for adoption. Then, her first great-grandbaby was conceived by a teenage grand daughter (my youngest sister), who married the baby's daddy, then miscarried the baby at 20 weeks and later endured a year of terrible abuse by the guy. A few months later, another young, unmarried, grand daughter (my cousin) got pregnant too. All the while I had been married for 3 years and couldn't get pregnant. My husband and I ended up adopting my cousin's baby and also having our own baby too just 4 months later. I have another cousin who has been divorced twice and now has a baby with her common law "husband". So, there have been a lot of babies in my family. I only have to generally announce pregnancies to a few people and then the word flies as fast as lightning and no one cares how I announce it or who heard it first. I'm pregnant for the 4th time (so it's our 5th child) and I didn't tell anyone for a long time because I didn't want to deal with the "is this your last one" and other similar comments AND because my brother's wife had recently miscarried.<br />Anyway, my husband's family is very different, even though there are 19 grand children, they still expect formal and personal announcements every time...but no one told me. They have a lot of unspoken expectations as well and being married to the youngest child and being a daughter-in-law has made it difficult to keep up with all those expectations sometimes because they're usually something that the wife is supposed to do. But, I think if it's his family then he should be the responsible one.<br /><br />Next, if you didn't intend to offend someone, then you should really say "I hate it when people take offense when none was intended". You had no intention of hurting people's feelings. They CHOSE to be offended by your actions or inactions. <br /><br />Besides, I say, YOU are the one who is pregnant, and you and Andrew are the parents. You should be the ones who dictate how, when, and what info is shared concerning your pregnancy (and family life in general). I understand that a new baby becomes part of the extended family too, but it seems strange that of all aspects of our lives, it seems like pregnancy is a time when extended family think they have a special right to dictate their opinions on the management of said pregnancy.<br />For example: with my first baby, my mom insisted that we NOT tell her the gender of the baby when we found out at 20 weeks because she wanted to be surprised when the baby was born. It was ridiculous to have to hide that information from her. After a few weeks, someone else slipped, and after that I told her it was my decision whether people knew the gender early or not, and whether I shared that info or not. And, that I wasn't going to try to hide it from her. She'd had her chance to be surprised with her own kids. She still thinks I shouldn't find out, but at least now she doesn't mind me telling her about it.<br /><br />Sorry it's so long, good luck, and I hope that some things can be worked out with the offended parties.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321594194975182723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-61470486476498721922011-12-29T18:43:45.187-05:002011-12-29T18:43:45.187-05:00*Like* Really, I do.
Individuals have different...*Like* Really, I do. <br /><br />Individuals have different reasons and backgrounds which influence the way they do what they do. And, I'm kind of sad that you even have to explain yourself. But, it did make for a very interesting read.<br /><br />PS-I don't like offending people either.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17022687696390219356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-58629902399099529522011-12-29T15:33:21.481-05:002011-12-29T15:33:21.481-05:00I didn't know you had older sisters. And wow,...I didn't know you had older sisters. And wow, that is awkward. You should be able to announce these things at your leisure... Guess what, I'm pregnant too! I was just excited this time that people didn't have to know right off the bat because I wasn't confined to the couch! Hooray! I think we're due around the same time, actually :)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15337465866190446630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33624978.post-16073134452151431972011-12-29T14:37:21.647-05:002011-12-29T14:37:21.647-05:00I love you Nancy and I thought your method of shar...I love you Nancy and I thought your method of sharing was awesome.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13427379666853239661noreply@blogger.com