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Tuesday, December 31, 2024

Stats

Last night I asked Andrew to pull together some statistics for my blog. Like, I could tell that my total posts per year had gone down over time, peaking at 539 (in 2008, the year I was raising only one baby and moved to Egypt) and dropping down to 231 (in 2022, the year I was raising my sixth baby and finishing my master's degree). There are many other reasons for my total number of posts dropping over time, especially since 2010—Rachel offered the fact that I've had, like, four babies between 2010 and now (and mentioned that she was going for an absurd number of babies...but then realized that four was accurate in my case) and Andrew offered the fact that we moved from Egypt to, uh, Orem (which kind of dialed back our "excitement" level). 

Still, I wondered whether my post length had increased (it had) and whether that would even out my total word count—like, I wanted to know whether I was writing fewer posts (obviously) but ultimately hitting the same word count annually. The answer is, that my post length is up on average but my word count is trending downward.


Oh, Phoebe!

This morning Phoebe lingered in her pull-up. 

She has been particularly difficult to potty-train, as far as my kids have gone. Probably the second hardest kid (next to Benjamin, who wins the title of Moste Difficult, hands-down). During the day she's really pretty great, but she simply will not consider nighttime potty training.

Alexander was probably the easiest kid to potty train at night. I told him he needed to stay dry and he was like, "Got it. Consider it done."

That child has wet the bed twice. Like, from the moment I took him out of diapers. That's it. 

With the girls (and Benjamin) I would wake them up in the night to go potty around the time they would typically wet the bed so I could intercept them to take them potty before they wet the bed. For example, if they usually woke up at midnight...wet and sad...I would wake them up at 11:00 or 11:30 to take them potty. And then eventually they'd start waking up proactively to go potty at that time, so I'd stop waking them up to go potty. And then eventually they'd just...stop getting up to go potty.

(Oh, who are we kidding? They still regularly get up to go potty in the middle of the night when they need to (and sometimes when they're just bored of sleeping, I guess)).

Monday, December 30, 2024

A beautiful day in December

We got out for a healthy dose of Vitamin D this afternoon. The kids chose Jones Bridge Park. We've been avoiding that park lately because they've been doing so much construction there, but I figured we could check out the progress. Turns out it's still...undergoing some serious construction.

They're redoing the water drainage in the park to help with erosion, since it's right by the river and the river tends to...eat away at it. I guess. Something like that.

Memorized Scriptures 2024

We had 22 scriptures on our list of scriptures to memorize this year and while I'm not sure everyone memorized every scripture, we certainly made a valiant effort. We officially crossed off 19 of them and are still working on 3. Perhaps we'll cross off more tomorrow.

Phoebe the photog

Phoebe has figured out how to take pictures with tablets and phones and things and some of the devices are linked to my account (I don't know how these things work)...so I end up with picture after picture after picture like this on my camera roll: 

Sunday, December 29, 2024

A few of our favourite things

We opened our gifts days ago and I'm...still talking about it...

We had quite a stormy night last night—on a tornado watch all night long, but no tornadoes for us (thank goodness)—and the morning was absolutely dreary when we woke up. Things were still drizzling when we went to church, but when we came outside after church the sky was a brilliant blue and you'd hardly know it was the end of December!

Zoƫ was excited to wear her new (with a heel!) shoes to church. She chose to stand with this holly bush behind her (because it's so Christmassy).

Friday, December 27, 2024

Christmas Train and Christmas Stockings

Phoebe succeeded on sleeping in the basement on Christmas Eve...but only because Andrew went downstairs to sleep with her. She woke up at 2:00 am buzzing with anticipation and didn't fall back asleep until around 5:00 or so. So we didn't get up particularly early. 

Here she is ready to assemble the kids at around 9:20 am:

Thursday, December 26, 2024

Silly Rachel stories

Everyone got new highlighters in their stocking (except for Phoebe who abuses highlighters). Rachel pulled out her highlighter and fiddled with it for a while before saying, "This button does nothing! How does this highlighter even work?!"

Wednesday, December 25, 2024

Family call

Just this morning my family settled on a time for a Christmas call:

11:00 PM CET (for Patrick in Austria)
5:00 PM EST (for us in Georgia)
4:00 PM CST (for Rosie in Oklahoma)
3:00 PM MST (for everyone else in their various locations: Utah and Wyoming and Alberta and BC)

Abra lives in BC so she would have been at 2:00 PM PST but the region she lives in doesn't observe daylight savings (and hasn't since the 70s), so they're permanently aligned with MST (which means that for half the year they align with MST and the other half they're kind of PDT...but also still just MST)). 

But look! We all made it into the very same Zoom room:


We didn't play any games (I think we're planning on doing that later this week), but we did get to chat with one another. Phoebe and Ireland got the same Bluey grocery cart and cash register (and were both thrilled with them). Allen and Brady both decided to shave their heads. Kelline and Allen were both technically at work (Allen driving Uber...but on a break while talking to us...and Kelli waiting in her hotel room in Wyoming for her shift to start). We had little kids filtering in and out of three different screens and some cats curiously visiting in a couple of others. 

All in all it was a wonderful visit! 

Our Best Year: The Phillips Family

Every year I make Andrew a new calendar of family memories to go in his office at work. I started a long time ago when we were young and poor grad students* (now we're old and middle class grad students*...so moving up in the world) and Shutterfly sent an offer for a free calendar. I still wait for those free offers and this year's offer happened to come right in the middle of finals week, basically. 

I was swamped with work, but I still managed to churn out a calendar for him. 

Were the pictures the most carefully curated? Not remotely, but my motto is that any picture printed out is better than no picture printed out. And I was pleased with myself for crossing one gift off of my long list of gifts to procure.

Then it arrived in the mail and I...noticed I made a huge mistake...but wrapped it up anyway...because what option did I have at that point?!

Andrew was already confused by the wrapping job. 


Somehow or other it came just the same...

I feel like we have so many more things to do before it could possibly be Christmas and yet...here we are! 

The kids were very excited for their sleepover in the basement today and spent all morning getting things ready downstairs. They even set up a little game table for themselves and spent some happy hours playing games together which...was perfect. They don't do that very often and I have spent years encouraging them to do so and they are finally starting to do it. 

Tuesday, December 24, 2024

O Tupperware, O Tupperware...

There's this meme setup that goes "if I ever won the lottery, I wouldn't tell anyone...but there would be signs," and the accompanying picture is...whatever the sign would be. 

I feel like this is my kitchen right now, only it's "if my marriage was approaching two decades, I wouldn't tell anyone [or would tell everyone]...but there would be signs." And this would be the accompanying image:


It's a spatula/flipper (as opposed to a spatula/scraper; we tend to clarify at our house because I grew up calling both these things "spatulas" and didn't everybody? Apparently not) that we've had for nearly two decades now. The handle was melted at one point. And a couple inches of it broke off a few years ago. But we kept it around because we liked it. 

We've accumulated several others over the years, but this spatula was different.

This was a good spatula. It was the spatula, if you know what I mean. 

There are other spatulas and then there is the spatula.

It's rather met its demise now, I think. 

I'm sure a new favourite will surface, but for now we're keenly feelings its loss.

*****

We were gifted some take'n'toss Tupperware for our wedding.

Monday, December 23, 2024

Live nativity (and other things)

The evening the youth in our ward took a shift as the live nativity for the Giving Machine set up in Alpharetta. I was a bit shocked when they told us that we had an assignment and that we needed to provide six youth because, well, that's just about (but not quite) everybody. But we did manage to more or less fill the necessary roles. We had two young men and four young women show up and they invited the older primary kids to participate as well, so we had three primary children present to bolster our numbers.


Sunday, December 22, 2024

Heiss Holiday Humbug 2024

This year's newsletter had to wait until finals were over to get started and I did have concerns about whether or not I would finish it in time, but here it is! We've come a long way since I first started writing these things. Miriam wanted to make sure that we took family pictures before she had oral surgery, so we ended up taking them the same day I got my braces. My face was in agony...and Miriam's surgery ended up being postponed (until January 3)...but the pictures turned out alright. And we at least got to cross "taking family pictures" off our list of things to do!

You can download it here or read it after the jump!

Saturday, December 21, 2024

Dwaine the bathtub

Rachel and Miriam went out to see Wicked with some friends the other night (Tuesday) and it was dark when they came out of the theater and the moon was big and round and beautiful. We'd been admiring the full moon on Saturday. And still on Sunday. It was still quite impressive on Monday. It really wasn't quite as full on Tuesday, but it was still awe inspiring, at least enough for Rachel to comment on it.

"Wow," Rachel said. "Look at that full moon."

"Oh, I think it's waning," Miriam corrected her.

"No, it's not," Rachel said.

"Yes, it is," Miriam said. 

"No, it's not," Rachel said. 

"Yes, it is!" Miriam insisted.

"Are you crazy?!" Rachel asked, holding her hands out, palms up to the sky to prove her point. "It is not raining!"

"No," Miriam agreed, "But the moon is waning. Like...the actual phase of the moon is waning gibbous today, so it's not technically full anymore, it just...is still really big..."

"Oh," Rachel said sheepishly. "I thought you were just...talking like a baby for some reason."

I wasn't even there, but the telling of the story was so perfectly hilarious and we've since all had a marvelous time falling into a baby voice to tease...well, Rachel really...but it's Miriam who gets embarrassed it for some reason.

Wednesday, December 18, 2024

¡Y el pavito ya estĆ” aquĆ­!

Today was our last day of co-op this semester.

On Sunday a few of my ukulele kids (ZoĆ« and three others) joined my primary kids (ZoĆ« and Alexander and three others) to perform Christmas Bells at our stake Christmas Sing-Along evening. That's eight total kids that I managed to pull together. We were small...but mighty. 

Then on Monday our co-op group played at a retirement home down the street. It was a little bit chaotic because I had it on my calendar for 3:00 but then the time was changed to 2:00 but somehow I missed that memo. We ended up getting there around 2:30, just in time to have my kids play their pieces on the piano before our ukulele group performed...and then Miriam accompanied the whole group singing a few pieces. We missed everyone else's solos! But, the kids all did just fine.

At the end of the semester the kids are encouraged to give little thank you notes/gifts to their teachers. I crocheted little trees for my kids to give to their teachers, along with a note of gratitude. I got a few chocolate bars and a lovely collection of notes.  


Our 19th anniversary (and other tales)

It was our 19th anniversary on Monday, so Andrew and I went out to do something fun, just the two of us. That hardly ever happens! Even for anniversaries! 

The older four kids went to see Wicked with Grandpa and Darla a couple of weeks ago, and we also wanted to go, so we decided to go see that. A friend had invited me to watch it with her on Tuesday because she had an extra ticket...but Andrew had to go into campus and I didn't feel great about making the girls babysit two nights in a row...so instead Rachel and Miriam went with this friends' family (because they're friends with her oldest daughter). It worked out well.

Anyway, Andrew and I went to watch Wicked. It was my first time in a theater in six years, as far as I can figure. The seats were fancy reclining seats, which was bad news for my perpetual state of exhaustion (I could not stay awake through Dancing Through Life, of all numbers to feel drowsy during), but the theater was freezing and made me long to be at home, curled up on my own couch with a warm, fuzzy blanket.

But it was nice to go out and not have to worry about anyone else's needs for a little while. 

When we got home, the kids were all gathered around the table decorating cookies together. They rushed to meet us at the door with their cookies in hand. It was nice to be greeted with such enthusiasm.


Sunday, December 15, 2024

Christmas activity of the day #2 and #3

We had our ward Christmas party this evening. It was our first time attending a Christmas party ever in this ward. 

We didn't have one in 2019 because our ward was so new that we just "couldn't even" (as the kids say, though I would say that we "prolly" should have). There was no party in 2020 due to COVID (good call, honestly). And then I found this in an email from 2021 that states: "We held our first annual [redacted] Ward Christmas party with an exciting 'Service Swap' on Saturday followed by a Relief Society social on Sunday."

Our family was refraining from superfluous social gatherings throughout 2021 and 2022, which I'll admit did put a damper in our social life. But to our credit, I was (1) in a high risk pregnancy in 2021 and (2) had an infant in 2022 and (3) COVID was still, like, raging and (4) my kids enjoy, like, getting pneumonia and stuff anyway so I oddly feel like being sick for 90% of the year isn't very fun so with COVID in the mix it (crowds of people) just didn't seem like a thing I really wanted to deal with.

Phoebe has never gone to nursery. And we joke that it's because she's stubborn (oh, she's stubborn...we're not joking about that part!) but I'm honestly not broken up about it at all because the idea of sending her to nursery where germs are swapped like Pokemon cards is, like, not at all appealing to me. 

Anyway, totally our bad for not attending the ward Christmas party in 2021...or 2022...or...2023...well, we sent our teenagers to help babysit in 2023 (because that is what the teenagers evidently do at the ward Christmas party)...and we finally dragged our sorry behinds to the party this year. We're low-key social pariahs in the ward. We wear mask (to cover our piranha-esque teeth, of course) and lurk on the outskirts of the action. Afraid we might bite (or something), people are pretty good about steering clear.

Saturday, December 14, 2024

Stick figures

Phoebe is starting to draw such lovely people! 

Rocket man!

A family in our homeschool co-op is actively involved in a rocket club and on Friday they invited us all to come and put rockets together with them. Their friend had a surplus of rockets and was itching to get a group of kids together so he could lure them into the rocket club (I suppose). Whatever the case, I signed us up for three rockets. There were probably 20 or so kids there.

The rocket family (and their rocket-expert friend) talked about rockets briefly before helping everyone put their rockets together. I was surprised by Benjamin's knowledge about rockets. I did not know he knew the answers to all the questions he was answering about rockets...but apparently this was a good activity for him. 

I don't have pictures of him putting his rocket together because he was at the "advanced" table with the older kids in the homeschool group. I hung around with Zoƫ and Alexander, who needed a little more help putting together their rockets.


Christmas activity of the day #1

This morning we went to the stake primary party (to practice our songs for the stake sing-along tomorrow evening), only we drove to the stake center instead of the Lawrenceville building...so we ended up being 15 minutes late to the party. 

First of all, I have to commend whichever ward's Christmas party we stumbled into—because the stake center was a hip-hop-happening place! They were having a pancake breakfast (which smelled delicious, but was a sign we were in the wrong place) and they had a cookie decorating station set up (a sign that we were perhaps in the right place) and all sorts of fun things going on. Noticing our confusion (and general not-quite-fitting-in demeanor), someone came up to us and asked us if we meant to be at the ward party or the stake primary party.

The latter! 

They invited us to join them, said they'd love to have us, and had plenty of everything to go around...but also pulled up the email about the primary party so they could verify the details for us. 

So nice of them...and entirely our bad. We should have read more carefully.

We arrived at the right building fashionably late, but it didn't even matter because—let me tell you—my hat is off to this primary presidency. They plan the sweetest little activities. It honestly doesn't matter if you're 15 minutes late because you've missed nothing. They typically have little rooms set up for the kids to filter through at will. However long the kids are engaged in the activity is how long they're welcome to stay in the room. So if you're late, you just hop in somewhere and start having fun. It works very well! Especially, I think, for a situation like ours where people are sometimes travelling quite a distance to be there...and/or then drive to the wrong building first.

Today they had a little crafting room where the kids put together an ornament of Baby Jesus:

Puppy kisses

Last night all the kids from ZoĆ« on up went to a game night together, leaving Alexander and Phoebe languishing at home. They fared alright—Alexander wanted to play Switch Sports, so we did that for a while, and then we got into jammies for story time. 

Andrew picked up some fuzzy pyjamas for Alexander while he was shopping a few weeks ago, so we gave them to him tonight. Phoebe was distraught because all of her Christmas-themed pyjamas were in the laundry. We finally convinced her to put on her snowmen and hot chocolate pyjamas (made of the same soft velor-type stuff that Alexander's jammies are made out of, but she wasn't quite happy about it and many tears were shed while she was getting dressed, but she agreed to pose for a picture under the tree with Alexander anyway (excuse her red, tear-stained cheeks).


He asked her to give him a kiss, a request that...carries great risk. Here you can see her leaning in with some little kiss-face lips and you think, Maybe this is going to be a normal kiss:

Friday, December 13, 2024

I know her!

Phoebe was in a bit of a wild mood before bed this evening. She was drawing with Rachel when I stumbled upon her/them and she said, "I'm making all the grown ups draw with me! Here's your paper, Mom!"

So I sat down to colour with her and Rachel. 

"What am I to you—a kid or a grown up?" Rachel asked.

"Ummmm...you are...ZoĆ«!" Phoebe said. 

"What?! I'm not Zoƫ."

"You could be."

"How?"

"You could be Zoƫ for Halloween!!"

This kid is a trickster, a jokester, an imp.

A few minutes later she leaned toward Rachel and said, "I'm going to kiss you!"

"This feels like a trick" Rachel said.

"No, it doesn't," Phoebe assured her.

"It might not be a trick," Rachel said. "But it feels like one."

"Shhh...it's not," Phoebe said and then she leaned in and licked Rachel instead of kissing her.

Wednesday, December 11, 2024

I'm a great aunt

This week my niece Rosie shared a little letter that Ireland had written to Santa (with the help of her preschool teachers). The letter reads:

Dear Santa,

I have been good this year and for Christmas I want an iPad. 

Love, Ireland (age 3.5)

In reality, though, Ireland had recently bonked heads with another child in her class and they were both given an ice pack. This was a novelty. What could be cooler than an ice pack? 

In Ireland's eyes—and perhaps quite literally in her experience—nothing.

And that is what she asked Santa for—an ice pack! 

Not an iPad. An ice pack. 

"Ireland is kind of hard to understand sometimes," Rosie explained.

Benjamin's Spritz Cookies

Benjamin needed to make cookies for his youth activity tomorrow. The boys are planning on taking some cookies around to various people, which meant they needed cookies. They asked Rachel if she would make some cookies for them and she said, "No way!" She felt like the boys were perfectly capable of making their own cookies. And she's not wrong!

When we first learned the boys would need cookies (yesterday) we talked about having Benjamin make cake mix cookies since those are so easy. But then I suggested he make spritz cookies because they really aren't much more difficult than cake mix cookies and I...just always want them during Christmas. 

Not that I'll get any of this batch..but if you teach a boy to make Christmas cookies...chances are he'll make them again...right?

So Benjamin made spritz cookies this evening, mostly by himself. We mixed by hand because Rachel was cleaning in the kitchen and we didn't want to disturb her...and because I grew up mixing practically everything by hand so I rarely think to use the stand mixer for cookie dough.

Here he is stirring;

Sunday, December 08, 2024

The devil's interval (and other tales)

This week has been a little...bit much. 

I didn't actually have to go into campus, but I did go to a conference in Atlanta (LRA), where I ended up leading a mentoring session (by myself) for an hour, which was super intimidating and stressful. But I did it. 

Monday, December 02, 2024

My dad's Christmas memories

I found a long-forgotten project on my computer the other day, a collection of "family lore" surrounding the Christmas holidays that I pulled from my own blog and from the blog Reid used to keep and from my mom's blog. I had some good stories. Some touching stories. Some funny stories. Some this-is-how-things-were stories. But I'm missing several perspectives. 

Tonight when I was talking to my parents, I asked my dad to share some Christmas memories from his childhood. Some of them I actually remember hearing, now that he reminded me of them. I'm going to write down what I remember of our conversation here.

First, you should know that my dad has five brothers (and a sister). You should know that the first handful of boys came one after the other—boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Like firecrackers.

Here's a little scrapbook page of the oldest four (for some reason I have it in my mind that this was my Grandpa's scrapbook):