I've been wondering a lot about parenting recently and reading lots of things. And I've come to the conclusion that what I do doesn't really matter. It probably helps that I just finished reading Freakonomics and that's one of the conclusions that they draw: it doesn't matter what you do, but who you are as a parent.
Sometimes I read things about all these activities parents do for their children. I like to play with Rachel and we do that everyday. Sometimes we do more organized activities like crafts and things, but certainly not everyday. Sometimes when I read about what some moms do and then think about how I'm not doing that I think that I might not be a good mom.
But I don't have to organize her whole day for her to discover the world. She does a fine job of that on her own. Sometimes it's nice to sit back and observe her playing and discovering the world without my interference.
Yesterday Rachel was building a block tower while I was reading my book. More specifically she was building a red tower using only red blocks. Her crown piece was a rubber duck.
"Rwwwwwed! Rwwwwwwwed! Rwwwwwed!" she yelled each time she added a block, and when she put the duck on top she screamed, "DUT!"
Today she made a mosque/house with a door to knock on where people could pray "in-ere" that had a nice big tower in front. She gave me the full tour. In case you are wondering, Rachel's prepositions include: up, down, out, and "in-there."
When we were at the Masons on Sunday she spent nearly the whole time making soup. She had some measuring cups and some sorting shapes and was making all kinds of soups: apple soup, honey soup, red soup, bread soup, and banana soup. She went around the whole evening making people try her soups.
Perhaps cutest of all, in my opinion, is that Rachel now understands the "got your nose" trick and has expanded it to a full-on face stealing game. She was sitting on my lap a few days ago and I grabbed her nose, put my thumb between my index and middle finger and declared, "I've got your nose!"
She looked at me like I had gone crazy.
"Look! Right here! It's your nose! You don't have a nose anymore because I have it right here!"
The blank stare didn't go away, so I put her nose back and decided to try that trick again later.
Then yesterday she climbed on my lap and stared intently at my face for a few minutes before grabbing my ear, tugging it gently, and then clutching her hands to her chest.
"My!" she said, "My! Mama ear! All gone!"
We've been playing that all day. From this she's learned the words "steal" and "take," which are probably vitally important in her vocabulary at this point in her life.
It doesn't matter that I don't sit down with Rachel and quiz her on colors daily, or if I don't make up little educational games for her to play, or if I don't read to her for x-amount of minutes. Sometimes we do those things and sometimes we don't and it just doesn't matter because there is no magical formula for raising a perfect child.
What does matter is that we are loving parents, that we try our best, that we create a Christ-centered home, that we encouarge education through our example, and we show Rachel how to be a good person.
Ironically enough, I feel like a lazy mom when I read about some activities you do with Rachel. I always ask myself, "Why don't I have enough enthusiasm to do something like that?"ReplyDelete
Not your fault, I just need to get off this computer. Good bye
I like it. I like all things that remove my level of responsibility and reassure me that my child will be screwed up and wonderful no matter what I do.ReplyDelete
I used to sit with Deklan and line up his dinky cars and say. "How many cars?" And then we'd count them one by one. "5" he'd answer. "If I take two cars away, how many do you have?" I'd ask as I'd confiscate two of the cars. And we'd count again to come up with the answer. Did you know he's a really good writer?ReplyDelete
I don't do much artwork, and yet, Piper is a great artist. And she was the first to read in Grade one and I didn't even know she knew how because she never did at home.
Kai is fabulous with numbers he adds and subtracts even double digits. I never even played the car game with him.
I think no matter what you emphasize, kids will find their own little niche. You can direct for sure but really, it's up to them.